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FORGET APRIL 1st

This has nothing to do with the day. I just want to talk about this.

Matt and I will be meeting the girls on Sunday. Their current foster mother found me on Facebook yesterday, and we spent a good chunk of the day chatting and trying to arrange a time for us to meet. Sunday afternoon we'll be driving to her house to meet her and the girls.

The baby is older - 20 months and her sister is 3 (maybe closer to 4). They both have some issues but none are extreme giving their young age. However, their foster mother did tell me that in her 30 years of fostering, the things these girls (and their older brother) suffered is the worst she's ever seen. Their brother is 5, and while he is currently fostered with them, he will not be adopted out with them.

It's a lot to take in. In fact, I feel like this whole week has just been one giant roller coaster of emotion from which I'm just now emerging. Yesterday I felt like I was on the verge of tears most of the day. Today is so much better than that. I'm trying to both not think, and actually think about, the things we'd have to do to prepare to take on these two girls. We're not making a decision officially until we meet them Sunday, but I think both of us are pretty positive on the matter.

At the same time, we have requests out for 5 other older children. It's going to be a lot of work for these two girls -- basically we need to rapidly finish our foster care requirements so we can take them on (we're not sure when they'll actually be up for adoption). Where if we were to get approved for one of the other kids, we could just adopt them fairly quickly with much less fuss.

*sigh* It's a lot to think about.

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blaizewind
Apr. 1st, 2011 05:17 pm (UTC)
*hugshugshugs* Luck to you, sweets. Much luck.
sangrealmazimur
Apr. 1st, 2011 05:36 pm (UTC)
good luck! So are you planning to foster to adopt? Their brother isn't coming with them? I wonder why parents would be willing to let two siblings be adopted out but not the third...must be hard to make such a decision.

I hope that you get these two little ones if that is what you would like. Can't wait to hear your updates!
cherith
Apr. 1st, 2011 05:40 pm (UTC)
The kids are in foster care now and the parental rights are being terminated due to abuse. The brother will not be adopted with them, also due to abuse, and at the recommendation of the foster parents they're with now.

Edited to add. Our goals are shifting as we learn more. Originally we were going to work on being foster parents first, working towards adoption. As we got close to the end of the process, we switched to trying to adopt. In this situation, we could foster the girls while we wait for the parental rights to be terminated, at which point we'd adopt them.

Edited at 2011-04-01 05:41 pm (UTC)
twotone
Apr. 1st, 2011 06:57 pm (UTC)
Good luck with everything... It sounds like a really complicated situation, but I hope that Sunday will go well for you all.
alizarin_nyc
Apr. 1st, 2011 07:58 pm (UTC)
Good luck, you are very brave and giving and I wish you the best. Looking forward to updates..!
yappichick
Apr. 1st, 2011 11:04 pm (UTC)
Good luck with everything. I can't even begin to imagine the whirlwind of emotions that must be going through you two right now.
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