This has nothing to do with the day. I just want to talk about this.
Matt and I will be meeting the girls on Sunday. Their current foster mother found me on Facebook yesterday, and we spent a good chunk of the day chatting and trying to arrange a time for us to meet. Sunday afternoon we'll be driving to her house to meet her and the girls.
The baby is older - 20 months and her sister is 3 (maybe closer to 4). They both have some issues but none are extreme giving their young age. However, their foster mother did tell me that in her 30 years of fostering, the things these girls (and their older brother) suffered is the worst she's ever seen. Their brother is 5, and while he is currently fostered with them, he will not be adopted out with them.
It's a lot to take in. In fact, I feel like this whole week has just been one giant roller coaster of emotion from which I'm just now emerging. Yesterday I felt like I was on the verge of tears most of the day. Today is so much better than that. I'm trying to both not think, and actually think about, the things we'd have to do to prepare to take on these two girls. We're not making a decision officially until we meet them Sunday, but I think both of us are pretty positive on the matter.
At the same time, we have requests out for 5 other older children. It's going to be a lot of work for these two girls -- basically we need to rapidly finish our foster care requirements so we can take them on (we're not sure when they'll actually be up for adoption). Where if we were to get approved for one of the other kids, we could just adopt them fairly quickly with much less fuss.
*sigh* It's a lot to think about.
Matt and I will be meeting the girls on Sunday. Their current foster mother found me on Facebook yesterday, and we spent a good chunk of the day chatting and trying to arrange a time for us to meet. Sunday afternoon we'll be driving to her house to meet her and the girls.
The baby is older - 20 months and her sister is 3 (maybe closer to 4). They both have some issues but none are extreme giving their young age. However, their foster mother did tell me that in her 30 years of fostering, the things these girls (and their older brother) suffered is the worst she's ever seen. Their brother is 5, and while he is currently fostered with them, he will not be adopted out with them.
It's a lot to take in. In fact, I feel like this whole week has just been one giant roller coaster of emotion from which I'm just now emerging. Yesterday I felt like I was on the verge of tears most of the day. Today is so much better than that. I'm trying to both not think, and actually think about, the things we'd have to do to prepare to take on these two girls. We're not making a decision officially until we meet them Sunday, but I think both of us are pretty positive on the matter.
At the same time, we have requests out for 5 other older children. It's going to be a lot of work for these two girls -- basically we need to rapidly finish our foster care requirements so we can take them on (we're not sure when they'll actually be up for adoption). Where if we were to get approved for one of the other kids, we could just adopt them fairly quickly with much less fuss.
*sigh* It's a lot to think about.
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I hope that you get these two little ones if that is what you would like. Can't wait to hear your updates!
Edited to add. Our goals are shifting as we learn more. Originally we were going to work on being foster parents first, working towards adoption. As we got close to the end of the process, we switched to trying to adopt. In this situation, we could foster the girls while we wait for the parental rights to be terminated, at which point we'd adopt them.
Edited at 2011-04-01 05:41 pm (UTC)