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So here's a post I've been meaning to make

Matt and I have decided to move forward with adopting H. We've been talking about it off and on since we got her and realized what a good kid she is. And then we sat down with her about two weekends ago and asked her what her thoughts were on the matter and whether or not she'd be interested. Of course, she is very interested and in fact told us that if we hadn't talked to her about it- she was wanting to bring it up with us soon. So, I think we are all on the same page here. It's an odd adjustment I think to go from taking care of another person's kid, to accepting them as your own. They tell you as Foster Parents to always keep in mind that things can change. A kid might not go back to /their/ parents, but there's always the chance that something will happen and the situation will have to change.

So, to go from that, to the idea that she might be permanent with us. I'm still trying to wrap my head around, while still trying to remember that it might not happen at all. We still have to get our side of things together- mostly paperwork (more paperwork o.0) but anything can still happen. However, we move forward with our plans towards adoption and hope that's the way things work out for us all.

It's continuing to be a difficult adjustment getting used to my new job, time at home with Matt and H, and everything else I want to do. It's getting a little easier to figure out what to do and when, but I know I'm not making everyone happy. I wish I could, and I suspect that if I won the lottery and was home all day, every day, I still wouldn't make everyone happy all the time. But, it hurts not to be able to do everything I can for people now. It's definitely not improving my mood and so I've been doing some things to help with that, in different parts.

I did a little giveaway for my Tumblr followers where I'm putting together some fanmixes. Fanmixes make me incredibly happy and I didn't really participate in any big bang challenges this year (aside from OFBB which is due this weekend - I keep having to remind myself) so I missed out on doing mixes for a lot of things like I did last year. So, this gives me the chance to sort of stretch out my music listening/analysing muscles, which I enjoy immensely.

In general I'm stepping back from fandom over on Tumblr and other places with several things giving me the opportunity to do so. The DA Land community- which I enjoyed a lot, is switching to become a BioWare Land community, which I'm far less interested in. So, that's one way. I'm also with the help of work, not on Tumblr as much- which I feel reminds me too much of high school at times with it's internet wives and constant reblogging memes and general asshattery when it comes to how people treat each other. It's the internet like anywhere else, but in such a condensed setting, I've been letting it get to me, because I LOVE the DA fandom so much. So, that's not only time and energy, but emotion saved.

I've also, in addition to working on fanmixes, been trying to work on my own writing separate from a lot of things. The OFBB helped at first, and then it didn't and now it's sort of helping again as I finish it up finally. I really need little projects to help me focus sometimes. Plus, I've lost my way with some of my original stuff, so I want to get back to it. Though, I'll probably still be working on DA stuff as well- just not as intensely, I think.

While I sort of step away from being active on Tumblr a bunch, I've got a queue a week long (and I'll keep that up) so my blog is active. But, I'm also working on the 30 Day Female Character Meme. I know there's a lot of those 30 day meme's about- but this is the first one I've really wanted to do. It's got a lot of good questions and has helped my analyst brain sort of break down why I like things- and see some patterns in the things I do like. If you want to read it you can see my 30 day tag here.

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uberreiniger
Nov. 9th, 2011 04:54 am (UTC)
Congratulations on you guys and H becoming a family together. That is such momentous news and I can't begin to say how happy I am for you all. Truly this is huge and amazing.

I get bored with the 30 day memes pretty fast when I try them but I think I'm gonna give this one a go. Thanks for alerting me to its existence.
cherith
Nov. 9th, 2011 05:04 am (UTC)
Thanks. We're pretty excited. :D
burningchaos
Nov. 9th, 2011 05:11 am (UTC)
I am so happy you are becoming a family.

Also I think your fanmixes are amazing. AMAZING. jsyk.
cherith
Nov. 9th, 2011 05:21 am (UTC)
Me too. :D

And, thank you!!
burningchaos
Nov. 9th, 2011 05:25 am (UTC)
*G*
nomoreprinces
Nov. 9th, 2011 06:33 am (UTC)
Yay! \o/ Happy things are going well for you three. <3

And I haven't forgotten about your email. I'm game whenever you are. I'm just sitting on my ass usually. :(
cherith
Nov. 9th, 2011 07:15 am (UTC)
Thank you!

Well then, if you have thoughts about what you want to do with the two of them, let me know. :D
seimaisin
Nov. 9th, 2011 12:13 pm (UTC)
Congratulations!! I think foster parenting/adopting is pretty amazing, and I admire you guys for taking on both. I'm so glad you found someone who fits into you family!

I understand what you're talking about with Tumblr - while I'm glad for it, because it's distracting me from my work-related misery right now, a lot of times it just makes me feel very old and tired and more than a little isolated from the culture of it in general.

(And I need to download and listen to some of your fanmixes! Because I've been starting to make more recently, and I love hearing what other people put onto their mixes.)
rustdangel
Nov. 9th, 2011 02:43 pm (UTC)
That's just awesome!!
twotone
Nov. 9th, 2011 06:05 pm (UTC)
Congratulations! I hope things work out for you in every way. :)
shadowfell
Nov. 9th, 2011 10:41 pm (UTC)
Very awesome news! I'm so happy for you guys!

I know things have been crazy with you with fostering and new job and whatnot, and of course I've got Little Bit on the way, but hopefully we can get together maybe after the first of the year-ish sometime? I know I will need a trip out of the house by then. :)
to_paraphrase
Nov. 10th, 2011 05:14 am (UTC)
I've got my fingers crossed for you guys and H. I hope it works out. And, yes, even if you did win the lottery and stayed home all day you still wouldn't make everyone happy. You can only do your best. :)
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