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God's Away on Business

We have a girl.  She got here about 10pm last night and so far, so good.   (More on the Foster Years blog)

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sangrealmazimur
Aug. 18th, 2011 04:55 pm (UTC)
Yaaaaaayyyy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Going to read your blog right now. So excited that the ball is moving for you guys!
germsama
Aug. 18th, 2011 09:48 pm (UTC)
I'm so happy for you! Congratulations!
naeko
Aug. 20th, 2011 01:00 am (UTC)
This is pretty intense! Even as open about sexual activity as I like to think I am, sexually active for a few years at 15 makes me tug my collar. Then again, I didn't lose my virginity until 22, so 13/14/15 just seems SO young to me. Is that normal for foster kids? It seems like it would be, considering that a lot of them probably have to "grow up" earlier than other kids and take care of themselves.

In self-serving news, my husband would like you to know that if having a kid somehow affects your PAX-Prime-going plans he would be happy to take the tickets off your hands (and pay, of course).
cherith
Aug. 20th, 2011 03:03 am (UTC)
Technically 16 is a pretty average age - not that it's a good thing or a bad thing - just what's pretty average.

Also - I will be still be at PAX.
naeko
Aug. 20th, 2011 10:24 am (UTC)
I think it's looking at my 19 year old brother and thinking he's still such a tiny baby who needs to be cared forthat makes me think about 15 as so incredibly YOUNG. I mean, I'm nearly thirty and I still feel like I'm an immature non-adult yet, so half my age? Ahhhh!

And I'm hoping we get to see each other for PAX; I felt crappy that I missed you last year.
cherith
Aug. 20th, 2011 04:38 pm (UTC)
I know. My little sister just turned 16 and I can't imagine her going through the same thing. I know that kids with certain types of abuse sometimes develop faster - turn to that sort of thing sooner in life. I'm not exactly comfortable with it, but I'm trying not to freak out about it. If that makes sense.

Definitely. I'm only in town Thurs. Night thru Saturday (leaving at 6am Sun morning) but I think we could definitely get together one night.
naeko
Aug. 20th, 2011 04:50 pm (UTC)
Five or ten years ago I heard on Loveline (when I still listened) that the average age for kids to lose their virginity was THIRTEEN. I think I nearly drove into a wall because thirteen is SO young! I'm hoping your stat of 16 is correct now and that it keeps going up another year at least.

I remember being sixteen and thinking sex was no big deal (I mean, I was terrified of pregnancy even then, but I knew I had BC options), but knowing what I do now, I look back at sixteen and it makes me feel uncomfortable that so many kids that age and younger and diving right into the emotional upheaval (and possibly physical upheaval!) of sex.

Really, though, all you can do is say you understand that she has made the decision to be sexually active and offer to do all you can to make sure she doesn't get pregnant or get diseases. Ryan and I have discussed at length how we'll handle all that when our kid is old enough (and well before she is, because preparation=a must), but it's more difficult to deal with when you are just meeting this kid that you're now responsible for.

Anyway, enough rambling. Time to leave to take Ryan to his vasectomy appointment!
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